The three kinds of self-talk I give my 1:1 athletes, when to use each one, and the lines to steal.
There's a conversation running in your head all day and you didn't pick most of it. It's on autopilot, it came from somewhere else, and it's making decisions for you before you even know there was a decision to make. Whether you cut the last interval. Whether you go with the move. Whether you back yourself in the final 200.
Most athletes talk to themselves in a way they would never accept from a coach. If someone stood on the side of the road and said out loud what you say to yourself on a bad day, you'd fire them on the spot.
Self-talk is not positive thinking. It's not standing in front of a mirror pretending. It's the most direct tool you have for changing what your body is willing to give you, in the exact moment you need it.
Hi, I'm Shannon, ex pro cyclist turned Mental Performance Coach. I once needed someone to teach me how to believe in myself, beyond the results. Nobody did. So that's exactly what I do for athletes like you.
I've coached 100+ high performers, including Olympians, national champions and WorldTour pros. This is the self-talk work I give every single one of them.
Most people think self-talk is one thing. It isn't. There are three, they do completely different jobs, and using the wrong one at the wrong moment is why it hasn't worked for you before.
Use your own name, or "you", instead of "I".
It sounds strange the first time. Do it anyway. The moment you stop saying "I" you step outside the panic and start speaking to yourself the way a coach you trust would speak to you.
That small bit of distance is the whole point. You can't calm yourself down from inside the spiral. You can from one step outside it.
Distance takes the heat out of it. Part of your brain receives it as though someone else is saying it, so it lands as instruction and support instead of more pressure.
This one isn't about how you feel. It's about what you do.
Short. Technical. One job. "Relax the shoulders." "Eyes up." Nothing about whether you're good enough, nothing about the result, nothing about the whole race. Just the next thing your body has to execute.
This is the tool for the middle of a hard effort, when a motivational speech is the last thing you can hold onto. Short is stronger when you're deep.
Your mind cannot run commentary and execution at the same time. Give it a job and the noise drops out on its own. You don't have to silence the doubt, you just have to occupy the channel it uses.
This is the one everybody has heard of and almost nobody does properly, because they treat it as decoration. It isn't. This one changes who you are being, and behaviour follows identity, every time.
Two stems do the heavy lifting here.
This changes the identity, and the behaviour comes along behind it. If you genuinely believe you're the type of person who finishes every session, you don't have to fight yourself at hour three. There's nothing to negotiate.
This makes winning familiar to your nervous system. It won't take a road it doesn't recognise, so you show it the road first, over and over, until the thing you want stops being a shock to your system.
Your brain doesn't tell the difference between a memory and a moment you've rehearsed vividly, it builds the pathway either way. It's the same reason athletes visualise. And it's why you cannot outperform your own self-concept.
Don't reach so far that your body calls it a lie. Reach for the version of you that's one step ahead, not ten.
Don't try to use all of these. Find the two or three your body reacts to and leave the rest.
Do this once this week.
This is how you prove to yourself that self-talk is real, so you stop doing it because I said so and start doing it because you've felt it.
Pick a session with four hard efforts.
Compare the numbers afterwards. More importantly, compare how the effort FELT.
That difference isn't luck and it isn't the weather. That's your mind changing what your body is willing to give you.
You don't need all of this. You need two lines that do something to your chest when you say them, said properly, every day, for the next month.
The voice in your head isn't going to go quiet on its own. But it will change what it says, if you're the one training it. Talk to yourself the way you'd talk to an athlete you believe in. Every session.
Go deeper with meDo the interval experiment, then send me what you noticed. Email coaching@shannonmalseed.com or DM me on Instagram @shannonmalseed. I read every single one.